Thoughts about motherhood on my third Mother's Day
My third Mother's Day was spent walking in the woods, enjoying the fresh air, wondering about motherhood while chasing after a toddler.
When I was pregnant, a little past the due date we went shopping for the last little baby items. As we were walking between the isles, a Nigerian lady came and spoke to me.
She asked me was I expecting a girl and I responded that's what I have been told. As her own daughter, who was holding her own little baby, shouted at her mum for being so embarrassing and to leave strangers alone, this lady stayed to have a little chat.
She told me that our baby would be a "contented little baby". She told our baby would be an especially happy and contented baby, as you could physically feel the love between us and the baby would soak it all up. She told us we would get two more children. Our baby to be born would be very musical and music would be important to her. "Piano, piano, I'm telling you" she repeated.
I would be a "real earth mother", a natural born mother, and she felt she had to come and talk to me after seeing how beautifully my aura radiated. As she went back to her embarrassed looking daughter she wished us all the best for the future, and to stay strong, as strong love attracts people that want to tear it down.
As the years have passed, I feel like many of the things she said have happened. My baby was a contented little baby. Always happy, quite quiet, easily pleased, easily managed. She may not always have been easy, as what babies are and she may not be an easy toddler, but as for being happy and contented? Yes, unequivocally yes.
Was I ever an earth mother? Motherhood sure felt like it came natural to me. It never was a struggle in any way. It just sort of happened, a happy little event in my life that I took on my stride. Maybe it was because my daughter was overall an easy baby, something many family members mentioned when they spent time with her. Or maybe it was just because being a mother is and feels natural, to me anyway. I can appreciate it is not the same for everyone, in fact, many loud voices online and offline do seem to make it out to be a hard tiresome slog. I have never felt that. It has been nothing but joy. Perhaps interspersed with exhaustion and long nights spent awake, but overall, a joyful experience.
Celebrating motherhood on a Mother's Day sometimes feels a bit silly, as I don't feel any different from what I was before and I don't feel like I have really done anything. I just have a tiny little shadow with me.
But celebrate we did of course. For my third Mother's Day I didn't want anything special. Just a card, to eat breakfast out and to go for a nice family walk in a forest. Well, I got my card and I got my walk, but as the restaurant was far too busy we ended up having a very late and quite luxurious Mother's Day brunch back home. During our walk we also gave all the dummies to baby hedgehogs - a surprisingly successful strategy to persuade a toddler to give her dummies away!
How was your Mother's Day? And how do you feel about motherhood?
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